I have a confession to make. I sat down to write a blog entry on the etiquette of recommendation letters – fascinating, right? Anyway, while working on this masterpiece I turned on TLC’s Sister Wives, a show about a polygamist family – one husband, three wives, and one girlfriend. (In fact, this blog entry can now be used as proof that it’s a bad idea to write while watching TV.) Anyway, I couldn’t stop thinking about the etiquette issues that exist in a polygamist family. Quite frankly, it’s kind of blowing my mind. Here’s a sample:
- When inviting a polygamist family to a wedding would it be Mr. and Mrs. and Mrs. and Mrs. Smith? Or Mr. and Mmes. Smith? (This is really an important one because in a polygamist community you probably go to quite a few weddings.)
- Is it kosher to go out trolling for a new wife with a current wife? Or should that be done solo?
- Do date nights ever include the whole crowd?
- How does courtship work? Do you ask your current wives first? (The complications surrounding all rituals of dating must be exhausting.)
- What about health insurance? Surely, they aren’t all covered in a family policy. (Okay, not so much etiquette, but you have to admit it’s a good question.)
- Baby shower etiquette. Who hosts the showers?
- How is it decided which wife gets which bedroom? Does Wife #1 get first pick or master bedroom?
- Is it acceptable to refer to the new wife as the rookie?
- If they’re all standing together in a group – which wife should the husband introduce first?
- How would you work seating charts? All seated together? Who gets to sit by the husband?
Yeah, I could go on all night. My apologies if you have to ask someone for a recommendation letter in the near future.