The jig is up, Valentine’s Day haters. I’m on to you. Bless your cynical little hearts but it’s time to make peace with February 14. I know all your arguments because I married one of you. So let’s examine them closer.
Valentine’s Hater Argument #1: Commercialism
Has Valentine’s been commercialized? Absolutely! What holiday hasn’t? Haters start with this argument and say things like, “I won’t give in to the commercialism of singing Valentine’s cards, boxed chocolates, and don’t even get me started on the flowers.”
Okay, make your stand.
There are more than enough people buying into the commercialism that society doesn’t notice your moral protest. The only one noticing is your significant other. What does he or she get for Valentine’s? Rants about Valentine’s.
So, if you’re truly abstaining from Valentine’s because of commercialism, then do something that’s not commercial! Write a letter. Draw a picture. Cook a dinner. Wash the dishes. Or are you just busy … abstaining?
Valentine’s Hater Argument #2: Love should not be dictated by a date on a calendar.
I love this one because the argument itself sounds so romantic. Okay, I agree that love should be expressed every day. But every day the dishes should also be washed, dinner cooked, little one’s bathed, toys picked up, careers attended to, and dogs walked. Every day is not romantic and I bet that 98.9% of the people citing this excuse are not the incurable romantics that their statements would suggest. If you’re one of the1.1% of people truly finding little ways each day to express and demonstrate love then wonderful. You are fully exempt from Valentine’s. (Although something tells me those 1.1% of people aren’t ranting against Valentine’s.)
Valentine’s Hater Argument #3: I’m not an overly sappy, sentimental, romantic person.
This is an easy one. If you’re not overly sappy, sentimental or romantic then don’t be! Who says expressing love has to involve violins playing, candlelit dinners, love poems, or chick flicks? Find your own way to express your love. Real love isn’t sappy anyway, is it?
There you have it – my best attempt to reform Valentine’s haters. This post is dedicated to my husband, who is either a former Valentine’s hater or a slightly less vocal one.